If Your Partner Left Their Spouse For You, Can You Trust Them Not To Cheat? Evidence Points to No!

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When a woman makes the decision to have an affair with a married man and becomes the other woman, she generally holds out hope that her married lover will decide he wants to leave his wife (and sometimes his wife and children) to be with her, and ultimately marry her. In her mind this will vindicate her, raising her status from home wrecker to wife and partner. Then she is certain to get the respect she deserves. Rarely does this woman ever pause to consider the feelings of the first wife and the home she has taken a part in breaking up… until she finds herself in the very same position. That lack of female solidarity and empathy for the wife that she has spurned to further the cause for her own passion will eventually come back to bite her in the form of unrelenting insecurity, assert many sources.

According to a prominent clinical psychologist who specializes in relationship counseling, "Less than five percent of marriages that are born out of adulterous affairs/ marital infidelityever last." And he cites unresolved feelings of guilt on the part of both parties as one major reason for such a low success rate with these types of relationships.

Celebrities are not immune to the emotional backlash that comes from snatching up another woman's husband. In Tori Spellings' most recent published memoir, Unchartered TerriTORI, Spelling candidly admits feelings of guilt and paranoia associated with how she and her husband, actor Dean McDermott, met and ultimately fell in love. Their affair led McDermott to leave his first wife, Mary Jo Eustace, for Tori Spelling. "Given our history, I often get worried that Dean is going to cheat on me. If the phone rings and it's a girl's voice I have to ask if he'shaving an affair," she shares. Spelling goes on to add, "Dean has never been anything but devoted, and he tells me over and over again that he would never do that. Deep down I believe him. But I can't stop myself. For some reason, I'm compelled to accuse him of cheating." At one point in her book Tori Spelling even expresses a strange suspicion that her husband's ex-wife has put a curse on her, and she goes about attempting to have it removed.

And according to countless reports over the years Angelina Jolie will break out into hives at the mere mention of the name Jennifer Aniston. Beyond that, in the summer of 2009 there were multiple reports that she and partner Brad Pitt had a big blow-up after she observed Pitt comforting a female staff member in their home who was not feeling well. Jolie reportedly flew off the handle and accused Pitt of cheating with the woman. The female staff member, allegedly a nanny hired to help care for their brood of six, was ultimately fired by the tumultuous pair. All because of mere signs of infidelity.

As for that annoying "Bennifer" romance that took place from 2002 to 2004 and made us all throw up in our mouths a little, after Ben Affleck wedged himself in between Jennifer Lopez and her then-husband dancer Cris Judd, the affair went from sizzling to troubling very quickly. Affleck and Lopez failed to even make it down the aisle due to reported trust issues and a case of "cold feet" on Ben Affleck's part. And who could blame him. Lopez was a little too quick to ditch her second ex-husband for him.

The bottom line is that most affairs ultimately don't work out, for public figures or everyday people. People who are inclined to cheat have already crossed a major moral threshold. They are statistically more likely to cheat again, even on the irresistible new lover-turned-spouse that they originally cheated with.

If you choose to have an affair and to make that man (or woman) your own, it is a case of buyer beware.